Raymond P. Farrell, 79, of West Milford and Delray Beach, Florida, died Tuesday, August 8, 2017 at his home in Florida.
Born in Yonkers, NY, Ray was the son of John and Ann Farrell. Raised in Yonkers, he enjoyed playing stickball in the streets with his friends, and learning about the game of baseball from his AAA ballplayer father. Though he lived in the shadows of Yankee Stadium, he rooted on the Brooklyn Dodgers or the Mets, for he couldn't betray his father's allegiance to the Boston Red Sox by cheering on their Yankee rivals. He was also a longtime fan of the NY Jets. He graduated from high school in Yonkers before entering the Army. He served for 18 months in Germany before returning to the states, and began his career as a Mechanical Engineer in the HVAC industry.
Marrying Rosemarie Scianameo, the couple lived briefly in Hackensack before settling in Ringwood, where they raised a son and a daughter.
Following his divorce, Ray moved to an apartment complex in West Milford, where he met Beverly Riderstoff, one of his neighbors. After some convincing, she joined him on a date for some ice cream, and soon thereafter, the two became inseparable. They have enjoyed their time in West Milford together, and have wintered together in Florida for the last 15 years. In his sickness, Beverly was a constant caregiver and loving presence at his side.
One of Ray's biggest accomplishments was earning sobriety through the AA program more than 30 years ago. Since then, he has been a fixture in the AA community, and has been a shoulder to lean on for many people struggling with addiction.
Ray will be remembered as a funny, relaxed and humble man, and as his friend Sam recounted to his family, "a righteous man among the Jewish." His eyes, the color of the sea that he loved, showed kindness and compassion to everyone he met. He will be deeply missed.
Ray is lovingly survived by his longtime companion, Beverly Riderstoff; his children, John Farrell and Donna Farrell and her husband Ramsey Ratz; his sister, Edith Farrell; his grandchildren, Joey, Daniel and Justin, and one foster grandchild.
Visiting hours will be Sunday from 2-6 pm at the funeral home. A funeral Mass will be officiated by Ray's dear friend, Fr. Emmett, and held 10 am Monday at St. Anthony's RC Church, Butler. Burial will follow at Cedar Heights Cemetery in West Milford.
In lieu of flowers, donations in Ray's memory to Strengthen our Sisters, PO Box 359, Wanaque, NJ 07465 would be greatly appreciated by his family.